Episode 049

Written By Adam Boismier

Be a friend, say something nice to a friend :)

with me, Adam Boismier

"Be a friend, say something nice to a friend, because it could change their life."

This is the tagline of The Pat McAfee Show and I feel compelled to echo this message this week.

One person I know tried to take their life last week. Another one was seconds away from taking their life one year ago and just shared this on Instagram.

I remember what that feeling was like... feeling lost, hopeless, like nothing would change, and that the only option was to take my own life. It's a very scary place to be in and its very vulnerable to tell somebody else that you're feeling this way.

I didn't tell my family members until 2019 that I tried to take my life in 2013. I know, it seems wild. And this is exactly what drives me to continue doing this podcast.

You are NOT ALONE! There are people that love you and care about you and will listen to what you're experiencing. It only takes 5 seconds of courage to open up to somebody and get the ball rolling. I know it might feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, but focusing on only 5 seconds can help get the conversation going.

Be a friend, say something nice to a friend. Check in with somebody today. Maybe it's somebody you hangout with all the time. Maybe it's a friend you have spoken to in 6 months or longer. Here are a few ways to spark the conversation if you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed:

  • "Hey! I miss you. Let's FaceTime this weekend."

  • "I miss hearing about what's happening in your life. What's new!?"

  • "Hey! I'm sorry I've dropped the ball on our communication. I really value our friendship and want to start talking more often."

  • "Hey! I'm free this Saturday. Want to go for a walk and catch up?"

  • "Hey! I saw that you tried that new taco place. It looks so good! What else is new?"

We tend to make excuses to NOT reach out, especially if it's been a while. Embrace the initial discomfort and send that text, voice message, video, or heaven forbid a voice mail to let the other person know you CARE about them. 

5 seconds of courage. You can do it :)

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If you'd like to reach out to chat about anything you're going through or have questions about resources (books, videos, etc.), contact me however you would like :)

I really would love to hear if this podcast (or a specific episode in particular) has positively impacted your life. I love you and really appreciate your continuous support ❤️

Adam Boismier
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